At Home Dates

At Home Dates


submitted by: Joy


romantic couple at home dinner date balcony ideasEditor’s note: While I was really impressed with this lady’s effort, I think it was a bad idea for a first date. The best relationships are built on solid friendships. With this overly romantic date, you will either scare the guy off or he will fall in love with the romance, regardless how much he really knows you. Save this sort of date for when you want to move from friend/acquaintance to “the next level.” You can read more about the do’s and don’ts of dating in my book, A Better Way to Date. – Michael


I met a guy through work that I was interested in, but was nervous about asking him out.  Then one day I got the opportunity to make a bet with him, which I lost on purpose.  For losing, I had to cook a nice dinner with multiple courses.  Since this was a first date, he didn’t know if I could cook or not, so to add to the drama, I told him that he’d better dress for a night out at an up-scale restaurant just in case the dinner didn’t turn out.

When he arrived at my house, he was greeted at the door by a girlfriend of mine that I had hired to act as a hostess/server.  Alecia welcomed him to “Chateau Joy’s” and escorted him to the dining room where he found an hors d’oeuvres tray including finger sandwiches, cheese, fruit and a bottle of wine. With music playing softly, Alecia poured him a glass of wine and told him that I’d be arriving shortly.

I made him wait for about five minutes before I entered the room wearing a simple, but elegant, floor length black cocktail dress, hair up, no shoes and light make up. After enjoying a few hors d’oeuvres, I took him to the living room, which was dimly lit by white Christmas lights placed in several large green plants, where we enjoyed piano music on CD.

We were there for about ten minutes when Alecia came in to tell us our table was ready.  We followed her to the balcony to find a beautifully set table.  The white satin table cloth was sprinkled with confetti and adorned with a colorful bowl centerpiece.  It was filled with water and floating candles in the shape of Lilly pads, which were surrounding a fish bowl containing a colorful beta.  Greenery and white Christmas lights were wrapped around the railing.  And of course, soft music was playing.

My friend served us a four course meal that I had prepared, starting with Cold Cucumber Soup, then the main course of Beef pinwheels, baby new potatoes with dill, and asparagus with a mock hollandaise sauce. Next we had a field green salad with raspberry vinaigrette followed by Crème Brule for dessert. With each course, my friend brought us a different glass of wine (brandy for dessert). Once dessert was served, my girlfriend quietly departed.

It was a very enchanting evening. We spent two hours talking in the living room, although I’m not sure how much he really heard because I think he was in shock the entire night.